Marriage unites two individuals. It is a bond that gives man
and women an official and public recognition. Every girl’s happy ending is to
marry her prince charming. But not all happy endings stay happy and radiant forever.
Marriages fail due to numerous reasons. And once child is a part of that failed
marriage, we all know how the Indians deal with it.
Several times I have heard people say, had I not had a kid I
would have left him or her. Had it not been the question of my child’s life I won’t
have dragged this marriage! I would have walked out if it was not about my child’s
future. And the list of reasons goes on. Every parents needs to understand that
what the child see and learns while you are entangled hauling your failed
marriage. And the irony is that in this due process somewhere you fail as a
parent. The arguments, disputes and roughhouse are what your child dwells with.
While you are busy convincing
the child that mom and dad both love you, the child is occupied envisioning the
reasons why mom and dad can’t love each other. The little mind can have grave
impacts of disturbed family. Your child is
equally suffering the failure, and is an indistinguishable part of the
broken marriage. Unlike you, he/she also
wishes freedom from this turmoil and to have a secluded life.
I think marriage should not take away the gusto from your child’s life. Continuing marriage for the sake of your child is absolutely inapt and one sided decision, where you feel the child needs parents by side in the growing stages. It is essential to give him/her a guarded and flourishing surrounding. Everlasting disturbance can trigger too many emotional and social muddles. One decision at the right time can save your child from life-long memories of disturbed childhood. For your child’s life will revolve around the bitter impressions had at early life. Don’t let your child be the part of the mess that he/she never espoused.
